Controlling Lust: A Declaration of Sexual Independence from Women (part 1)

[This is the first installment of a four-part series on how men can avoid being slaves to female sexuality.]

There was a time when women were thought to be the ones who needed protection from sexual predators. In many instances, this idea is still used to punish innocent men for their natural sexual inclinations, yet ironically, a striking change in sexual relations has developed. Men are now realizing that they are the ones who have to arm themselves against the sexuality of the opposite sex. Why? Because female sexuality has been turned into a weapon against men.

Why Control Lust?

If you believe the current situation regarding how women treat men is agreeable, the following discussion on controlling lust will be of no use to you. You will instead need an education on the blatant misandry that is so prevalent in contemporary society. I am certain that in this sex-saturated society, many men would question why they should control their sexual desires. After all, isn’t sexual desire a good thing? Aren’t men programmed with a sex drive? Who doesn’t want to have sex with women?

The answer is simple. Our refusal as men to control our sex drive is costing us personally and collectively. Our strong desires for physical and emotional intimacy makes us vulnerable to manipulation by people who don’t often have our best interests at heart. Do not think that I am just talking about some bad woman luring away a man from his happy family. No, I am talking about the entire social structure of contemporary Western civilization. The Sex Industry, the Marriage Industry, the Divorce Industry, the Domestic Violence Industry, the Sexual Harassment Litigation Industry, and indeed Madison Avenue could not function except for the fact that a horny male and his money are soon parted. I suspect that most instances of wealth transfer from men to women are based upon this truth.

Men are being exploited by commercialism, the religious establishment, the workplace, academia, government, etc. because they have been programmed to believe that their lives revolve around getting their rations of intimacy from women. Men do not need intimacy from women in order to be happy, but society suppresses this truth. It suppresses this truth because it needs men to slave away for something that is overvalued: a woman’s affection. “Sex sells” because men don’t question the quality of the product.

When society approaches the matter of chastity, it always looks at the matter from the supply side. In other words, it’s about limiting the access to women, whether the access is in person or virtually. Government passes all sorts of draconian laws to control what men do sexually. The religious establishment condemns pre-marital sex, prostitution, pornography, and sometimes even masturbation, while urging men to nonetheless get married as a rite of passage into adulthood. Contemporary women demand compliance to a laundry list of ridiculous, unrealistic, self-serving criteria before men may receive attention. In essence, the supply-side approach to chastity creates an artificial scarcity and drives up the costs men bear in their lives for what they desire.

The Demand Side

I approach the matter of chastity from a different angle: the demand side. A man should ask just why would he want to have sex with a woman in the first place. What have women done for him, besides look pretty and bother to talk to him? Just why would he want to live with a woman for the rest of his life simply because she has decided to have children by him? What else is a woman going to do for him besides take his money and time? Is the temporary euphoria of sex and romance really worth the long-term price he is going to have to pay? Believe me, he will have to pay a steep price whether the sex is socially sanctioned or not.

Some men think they can avoid the dangers of sexual liaisons in today’s society by resorting to pornography. But such is not particularly helpful because it still holds men captive to the power of female sexuality. They are paying a price for their desire in terms of time and money, and yet they merely receive the sizzle without the steak. In the wake of pornography, men are still left salivating for the real thing.

It is time for men to stop being so desperate for something they can live quite contentedly without. When dealing with a woman, it is best to trump the Sex Card she may be prone to play with you. Who cares if she is drop dead gorgeous, has a PhD, shares your hobbies, and is talking to you? Women of generations past actually contributed something useful to the physical survival of their husbands and their family unit. How does the apple of your eye measure up in that regard, considering her looks will fade and her agreeable personality may change?

When a man stops worrying about whether or not he will be lucky in love, something happens. He becomes at peace with himself. Things that used to appear to be important are revealed as being trivial. The man becomes self-confident in his dealings with the opposite sex because he no longer feels there are any high stakes involved. He no longer sees himself as a loser because he is no longer playing a game rigged against him. He can engage life on his own terms and not compromise his core values and goals. He defines his own manhood instead of succumbing to the winds of fashion. He can get through the day with his health, sanity, and bank account still intact. What kind of man would not want these things?

In short, what I propose is not castration or repression of a man’s desire, but that a man master his feelings. He should be able to turn on or off his own sex drive as he pleases. He should never feel that he is at the mercy of his own biology. Contrary to popular opinion, a man is not doomed to go stir crazy from practicing abstinence. He should realize that he has genuine choices about how he reacts when confronted with female sexuality. Let women prove their merit to the man for a change. Let his sex drive serve him, not the other way around.

[Click on the link for part 2, part 3, or part 4 to read the rest of this series.]

31 Responses to “Controlling Lust: A Declaration of Sexual Independence from Women (part 1)”

  1. 1 craichead
    August 17, 2005 at 9:55 am

    Brilliant! Can’t wait to read parts 2 and 3. This is the hidden truth of our culture and the illusion of wholesale female opression. It just isn’t that simple.

    I’d like to reccommend a book to you: “Generation of Vipers” by Philip Wylie.

  2. 2 Verlch
    August 24, 2005 at 1:37 am

    REad the garbage generation…This guy was a genius!!!!


    I think a bunch of Lesbian women went Hetrophobe and through the buddy buddy girlfriend matrix used sex as a weapon against us.

    Now women use chocolate, cats and vibrators in a vain attempt to please themselves. Don’t forget the Dr. provided Anti-sad pills they suck down to look happy… Face it ladies a nice marriage, some children/house to look after and you should be happy.

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